I've always wanted to be an only child, for as long as I can remember.
I know folk who are only children and envy me being one of five.
I loathe it.
Always have done, and despite how mother is, totally doolally, I'd still prefer to be an only child.
For example, sister above me has got herself into bother, not going into it here, as I could be here a while and for damage limitations I am to take over Power of Attorney. In fact lawyer had suggested I was a joint one with her, but declined as (1) she wasn't that keen (2) I was being lazy!
She stupidly spoke to my brother about things, and he had sussed why I'd been down at the lawyers on Thursday. And he had the good grace to turn round and say I couldn't be trusted!
Put it in his wife's name.
She tells me this tonight as he's narked her and stupid man calls me tonight about her having a go at him.
I did ask was this comment true and he couldn't deny it, so I did inform him that as I've been sole career for his mother for years and in fact doing it all on my own without any help since April, how could he dare suggest his wife be it, seeing they've never been on contact, in fact only time they see her is when I drive the 47 miles to them! I got he'd been ill, aye so have I had a stroke for my 51st, but I kept looking after mother though medicals did think she helped cause it. As I pointed out, he's not even picked up a phone to ask after her.
Also I did point out that over 24 years ago he diddled her out a very large sum of money, so if anyone couldn't be trusted it would be them, and they should be grateful they'd been forgiven for such indiscretions. Doubt he knows what the word means.
No 2 son is narked he can't jump on a plane and come to my rescue, kind of glad he can't as he'd get himself all upset about how I am being treated.
Its amazing really, I keep the family business going for longer than it should, while keeping down my own job, and then to add to it in the latter years start looking after a woman with dementia that no one else sibling wise really cares about, and I am the one not to be trusted.
I'm a firm believer in Karma, and I know the problems my immediate sister is having, is karma biting her on her bum.
I know one day karma will bite my brother's bum too, but I am not going to resort to revenge, I've lost my temper and that's it, its done. If I don't speak to him for a very long time I shall be fine.
But I am not amassing bad karma for them!
Being an only child might have been harder work, but just now it looks so promising!
Don't know the details, obviously, but I do know what you do on a daily basis and have I often wandered if you get any support from the rest of your family. You are,as you say, working a job, looking after your mother,and dealing with your own health issues!!!!! As they say, you can chose your friends, but you are stuck with your family!!
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