Friends?

I know I've a select bunch of friends for a reason, people I can trust etc.
I'm not into having massive amounts of folk as acquaintances and I've never understood why some folk want thousands in twitter or on Facebook , how do you speak to them ? Or have I lost the whole point?
But every now and again I get narked with some of my inner circle, as they transfer their problems onto you, or blame you for something you've had nowt to do with.
My "BFF " is someone from Uni days,we've supported each other through a lot of crap.
But every so often I want to shake and yell.
Last night being one of them, as wilst worse for wear I was being told stuff I think I wouldn't have been just yet. I'd pushed about somethings, knew they were mundlin and wanted to see if I could support, but no as seemingly, I'm one of the people they need to make an effort to keep in touch with. No, I am not. It's the others in their life that they have to, I am the numpty to actually texts etc it's days before a reply etc and I have pointed this out more than once and they've agreed. But last night it bugged me, why I don't know.
I came to the conclusion with another friend I'd known since primary 1 that I was fed up making the effort for folk who don't make the effort for me, and said to BFF and they agreed, and i decided no more effort, folk had to at least meet me half way and last night as bff wasnt getting support off another friend about a life style change, it's my fault too, and I am tared with the same brush. I did say to another friend this morning I knew by today BFF wouldnt remember what had been said and I was right,I text and it took a good wee while for a response, and I can tell they didn't even remember speaking to me on the phone.
But it's still annoying me, not the forgetting, as I knew that be the case but because of what they'd said, don't they say you are more truthful whilst drinking?
I know life is too short for grudges, but, life is too short for friends that think it's all a 1 way street.